Anger

A punishment you give for someone else’s mistake

No one ever likes feeling agitated or angry. If we don’t feel compassion when we see others’ mistakes, we are bound to get angry at them and eventually at ourselves. A little knowledge about us, about our mind, our consciousness, and the root of distortion in our nature will help. Our breath has a great lesson to teach us, which we have forgotten. Breathing techniques and meditation are very effective in calming the mind. Then we can make our anger expensive and our smile free.

The Surprising Secret About Anger

Righteousness

The root cause of anger is righteousness. If you think you are not right, you cannot get angry. And if two people are angry at each other, they both think they are right. You talk to them individually or separately, you will find they are right in their way. Now, righteousness is a perception.

Tiredness

The third reason is when you are tired, you're physically and mentally tired, and you have not relieved the stresses that you have been carrying.

Deep desire

The second reason is when you have a deep desire and it doesn't get fulfilled, you get frustrated. That frustration causes anger.

Perfection

The fourth reason is that you have a desire for perfection so you get angry at imperfection. You want everyone to fit into your concept of perfection, it’s not going to happen. It’s definitely going to trigger anger inside of you.

Tips to Get Rid of Anger

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Sudarshan Kriya

The cornerstone of Art of Living courses, the Sudarshan Kriya™ technique has helped millions around the world to reduce stress, to get better rest and to improve the quality of life. Studies conducted on four continents and published in peer reviewed journals, including at Yale and Harvard, have demonstrated a comprehensive range of benefits from reduction in cortisol, the stress hormone, to increasing overall life satisfaction.

What to do when someone else is angry?

When someone is upset you also don’t get upset at the same time. Let them have their time if someone is yelling and shouting. It is their time, give them their time. You be a spectator. Not one who is a participant in that show. Another time you lose your temper and you shout. You show your anger. So, the problem comes when everybody becomes an actor, there is no spectator. Take turns to get angry. Have fun. Humour is the antidote to anger. When you are centered, humour automatically will be there.

Also when someone is losing their temper without a reason, know that their pitta is high and help to calm them down. Give them some ice cream, milk, something that cools down the pitta is necessary.

Should I never get angry?

Anger is not bad. If it stays only for a few seconds, it is okay. It should stay, only as long as the line that stays when you draw it on the water. Once in a while, if anger comes up, don’t start blaming yourself. One thing that can be very detrimental on the spiritual path is self-blame. Showing anger itself is not wrong, but being unaware of your anger only hurts you. Sometimes you can show anger purposefully. For example, a mother gets angry at her children and can act tough or shout at them if they put themselves in danger.

Anger can also help in taking up challenges which otherwise you may not do. It can be a great motivational spirit here. But without the bitterness. If there is bitterness that anger has caused within you, it’s going to eat you up inside. Anger is like that fire which can give you warmth, and which can burn you too. Look at the consequences of getting angry. Are you happy with the decisions you have made or the words you have spoken in a state of anger? No, because you lose your total awareness. But if you are completely aware and are acting angry, that is fine.

It will take some time for you to get to that level, where anger does not even touch you. It will keep coming in different shades and intensities. Till that time, keep doing your practices – Sudarshan Kriya, pranayama, and meditation will help.

Anger

The Surprising Secret About Anger

Righteousness

Tiredness

Deep desire

Perfection

Tips to Get Rid of Anger

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